One of human needs is to be fit in the group, to talk with people, and to be with people. This is the common thing that our soul tend to look for this need. If not, we would be feel lonely and it is not good since we feel nobody needs or loves us. That is the truth about human. Human has never been alone at least when Allah created Adam and Hawa. He created couple so Adam did not feel alone and they can make family. The basic human need is to be accepted and it is not wrong. When it was cave men era, they always lived together so they can protect each other for the dangerous. It is always the truth human can't be alone. I mean people who love being alone someday might need people to interact. For instance, to buy food you need to talk.
Well, that was my need back then. I tend to look for into my boyfriend. I always hate the silent because I feel he does not like me or get bored of me. I used to cry and overthink. That was so ridiculous. We always fight because that was the only reason I want to spend time with him. Now, I guess 2 hours are enough. I do not engage in the conversation so much. That is why I lost control over myself because I need the socialize part but I hate to meet new people. It is tiring. I love talking to myself.
Yes, when he blocked me, my friend suggested me to find online community that you can share everything and I found "Ziwa" where the purpose of the community was to connect people in this online era and help people do not feel alone. That is beautiful. In this online era, we actually more connected because we know people from around the world but at the same time we do not feel connected. I found it is interesting community and in the group they do not talk a lot. I mean they always have weekly meeting
1. Speed bonding = It is the place where we talk for seven minutes and admin changes one by one the person. It is two people discuss the certain topic or out of the topic as long as no sexual harassment. The admins always remind people in the online community to respect each other and if they break the rules they will do something. It is beautiful. I feel protected as well by the rules and guideline. I have been three times in this meeting and discuss so much. At first, I feel such accomplishment to socialize with people. But now, I get I dont need to do that to feel not alone. I mean I love it but it is not my main thing to think it automatically help me to feel less lonely. I now join whenever I feel like to talk. I tend to not focus "oh yeah I need to talk so I dont feel alone" instead "Let me talk so I can learn something". I always feel exhausted if I share to people because I really ask questions a lot because I dont want to be dry talker when they only say "yes, true" that is awful. Still, my personality to be people pleaser:)
2. H2H- It is heart to heart where admin shuffle and pair two individuals to discuss for 30 minutes in the topic they like. I only join one time and I feel exhausted lol, So many things to discuss but I am tired because my partner and I seem to be in interview lol. Well, next time I can join
This place can make people like me at least talk to people lol. I mean I can get people do not like to talk maybe it is the good place to start
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